It can drive you mad trying to help people who won’t help themselves. They ask for help, so you give it. Then the abuse takes over. They make no attempt to move forward. Everyday is another excuse. It’s never their fault. It’s always you that’s the problem or someone else who is making their life so hard. It wasn’t their fault they rolled the car on the interstate driving with a .19 blood alcohol level. It was the guy speeding by them. It isn’t their fault that their addiction and driving impaired that their daughter could have died, but instead only had a broken arm and now suffers PTSD. it’s not their fault that their relationship didn’t work. It’s the other person who was having a relationship with someone else who wasn’t abusing them emotionally. It’s not their fault they can’t get work. Instead it’s the employer and their ridiculous expectations of sobriety in the work place. It’s not their fault they’re homeless. It’s the people being unreasonable about letting you break the rules of the house and being upset about being attacked. I mean what’s the big deal if you smoke in their daughters room when they don’t allow smoking in the house. What’s the big deal? They are so unreasonable just because they had to throw our their daughters bed because you spilled booze and food all over it and it smells like a dirty ashtray. It’s not their fault they feel persecuted because the state they had the accident in and arrested them is now hunting for them because of their failure to appear for their court date. It’s only an aggravated DUI, and child endangerment cause. They will get there when they can, and the courts and police can just wait until they’re ready.
I might be a little facetious, but I can’t deal with narcissists and their bullshit.
Stop making excuses
Stop ruining everyone’s lives
Get your shit together
stop trying to paint everyone with a brush of deceit.
Life is as hard as YOU make it.
Today we drew the line that this person wouldn’t. we put her things out in the driveway and locked the doors. If they don’t pick their stuff up in 30 days, it’s going to goodwill and I will never deal with them again.
What the experience taught me is I can’t hold everyone to the same standard I held myself. I overcame my addiction and moved forward. I can’t expect those who would rather drown than accept help. It’s taught me that there are relationships that I need to let go of before they poison my well.
I pray that the universe shines a little brighter for those that are blind to their own decisions, so they can heal